“Inspiration is the greatest gift because it
opens your life to many new possibilities. Each day becomes more meaningful,
and your life is enhanced when your actions are guided by what inspires you.” –
Bernie Siegel
When we were
younger, we would buy a gift for someone and put it carefully in the perfect
box. There it would rest, perfectly nestled, amongst its folds of tissue paper.
There was not a flood of extra space for the gift to slide about, nor was the
gift so cramped that it was wadded into itself. It was perfectly – beautifully –
portioned into a box that fit it just so.
Life, we
thought, was supposed to be this way.
It was
supposed to be perfectly portioned, doled out in just the right amounts, not
overlapping, but giving each life event just the right amount of time to occur.
Thinking about life when we were younger, we never dreamed of just how messy
and out of shape life could become. College in four years, five tops. Then
marriage. Then kids. A good job, of course. Those are the vague outlines we
tended to see. And really, we saw very little beyond them.
We grew up.
We realized
that life isn’t so pat and neat. Life is much less tidy than we ever thought it
was. Somehow, as we’ve grown, this chaos of a life has blossomed around us.
Identities that we have always drawn thick, hard lines around need to be
rethought because those thick, hard lines? Really, they mean nothing to anyone
but us. And the more we bluster on about them, the more foolish we look. We
must open our minds, and close our mouths.
Kids have
come into our lives creating a patchwork family. One daughter has these
grandparents and another daughter has those grandparents but this daughter
doesn’t share those grandparents and that daughter doesn’t share these
grandparents but they both share my parents. We are a living, breathing Venn
diagram.
Life looks
nothing like the wondrous future we once imagined for ourselves back in our
youth, back in the spirited days of our late teens or even our early 20s when we
were still invincible with heady exhaustion and the absolute overwhelming
possibility of life. Everything was still before us, all the gifts and joys and,
yes, trials, of life were yet to come. No,
this is not the future we imagined for ourselves then.
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